Are you wondering about an elopement vs wedding? If so, you’re in the right place! Below, I’m going to share everything you need to know about having an elopement or a wedding, the differences between the two, and which one is better.
Most people, especially those who have found the one, have an idea about how elopements differ from weddings. Some even know exactly which route they want to take. Both options entail important pieces for executing your dream day, and both lead to one thing – spending the rest of your life with your soul mate.
So, let’s take a look at elopement’s and wedding’s similar and different details, the pros and cons of each, and which one might be best for you and your love!
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The most significant differences between elopement vs wedding are the planning process, guestlist, and location.
When planning an elopement, the process is usually much easier and quicker than when planning a wedding. You can often plan an elopement in just a few weeks or days if you want. That’s because, with an elopement, you’re planning the day around yourself, your significant other, and maybe a few guests.
On the other hand, there are more details to plan with a wedding, mainly due to guests. With arranging schedules, seating charts, entertainment, and food, much more time is involved. This is why many couples spend months, even years, planning a wedding. You can skip a lot of these details when planning an elopement.
Elopements usually only involve the couple, an officiant, and maybe a few loved ones. Many couples appreciate this because it allows them to focus more on themselves during their special day – which is perfectly okay!
People who go the wedding route typically want to invite all of the important people in their lives, which is also completely understandable. This means the guestlist is longer, and you have to consider seating, transportation, accommodations, and more.
Another big difference between elopements and weddings is location. When you elope, you can have your ceremony just about anywhere. The beach, the mountains, a national park, or a cabin in the woods are just a few places you can elope.
If you’re planning a traditional wedding, you need a venue that accommodates guests and has a space for your ceremony and reception. Some couples also opt for separate ceremony and reception locations. As you probably already know, booking a venue (especially if you have a particular one in mind) may require you to be more flexible with your wedding date.
Here are a few of my favorite elopement locations I’ve photographed:
You might also be interested in reading: The Ultimate Elopement Checklist: Everything You Need to Know
Both elopements and weddings have their share of advantages and disadvantages. It really depends on individual couples and what they vision for their dream day. To help you decide which one is right for you, let’s take a look at the pros and cons breakdown of each.
Looking for a quick rundown? Here you go!
You don’t have to worry about ensuring all your guests are happy when you elope. It’s okay to be selfish on the day you and your love commit to forever! And if you want to have a few loved ones attend your elopement, planning food and fun for just a couple of people doesn’t have to take away from making the day exactly what you want it to be.
Since an elopement only involves a few people, you don’t have to worry about choosing a location that fits a crowd. You can have your ceremony in just about any place you choose!
With less planning, especially if you have an elopement photographer and planner like myself helping you, you’re likely to experience little to no stress. Elopements are usually relaxed fun experiences so couples can leave the stress behind!
Naturally, you’ll save money when you’re not paying for a larger venue, food and drinks for multiple guests, or a ton of decor. Who can complain about that?!
If you want to spend a little more and go all out on travel, attire, and activities – you can do that too. Either way, it’s totally up to you.
Couples who elope, especially those who have an adventure elopement, can do more exploring for unique photo possibilities. While pictures with wedding parties and guests are usually fun, there can be more opportunities when it’s just you and your love.
If you have a close-knit family and/or friend group you love, it’s natural to want them to join you on your big day. So, you might miss having them celebrate with you on your big day.
However, there are unique ways to include your loved ones when eloping. These include sending photos of your ceremony and/or having a get-together with family and friends before or after your elopement.
If you choose to elope, you may find that your loved ones feel excluded from your big day. You can include them using the ideas above and by having them help you with travel plans and picking out your attire.
One big drawback of elopement vs wedding is that you won’t have as many guests so you might miss out on wedding gifts. Guests often enjoy gifting newlyweds with keepsakes and items for a new home. You can offer this opportunity by sending out an announcement with a gift registry link or having a bridal shower before your elopement day.
Many couples find wedding traditions to be very sentimental. These may include things like the father walking the bride down the aisle or having a wedding party.
Keep in mind that there are some traditions you can carry into your elopement day, like something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue.
When you have a traditional wedding ceremony, you can opt for larger venues that can accommodate all your loved ones.
Some venues require a minimum headcount. If you’re having a wedding with guests, you can go with these larger venues.
Because weddings typically mean more people and details, the planning process can take a while and can be more stressful than planning a more simple elopement. Wedding planners can help ease some of this stress but come at a cost.
Again, more details and people lead to spending more money. Many couples would rather save their cash for a fun honeymoon, and I can’t say that I disagree!
While it’s common to want your guests to enjoy your wedding, there’s nothing wrong with your big day being all about you. Having a wedding almost always means more focus goes towards your guests.
Elopements and weddings can both be memorable experiences and ultimately lead to you and your loved one saying, “I do.” Deciding which one is right for you depends on what your dream day looks like.
Close your eyes and imagine your special day. Is it intimate, or are all your loved ones there? Is it at a beautiful venue with many vendors or on a mountaintop at sunset? Do you want to plan a detailed, extravagant day or do something simple next month? At the end of the day, it’s all about you and your significant other!
For me, I chose to have an elopement because I wanted my wedding day to be 100% authentic. I wanted it to be all about what my husband, Hunter, and I love. By avoiding traditional things that we didn’t care about and the opinions of others, we were able to have a stress-free, relaxing, and adventurous elopement day. It was inspired by the nature that surrounded us and left us intentionally focused on our love for one another.
As an adventure elopement and intimate wedding photographer, I’ve helped many couples execute their dream day and share the memories with their loved ones. I would love to help you, too!
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